March 4, 2010 Letter to my Family

Happy March 4th!

Once again, the day especially made for bold and decisive action is here.  I want to wish each of you a happy March 4th, and hope you take the opportunity to march forth in whatever decision or action you choose.

For me, I’ve been learning these past weeks and months to trust myself, my inclinations and abilities, my thoughts and opinions, in some ways more than ever before.  Actually, I’m coming to know and (incredibly) take care of myself in a way I never have before.  Stepping forth boldly and confidently can be, at least for me, a scary thing to do; I’m learning it can also be exhilarating and even the right thing to do.

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Bombay Letters 3, March 1998

Date: March 17, 1998

Subject: I got your letters

Dad and Mom,

Today is 3/17.  In the mail I received the letter from my employer which you sent and also a card to each child and to Anita and me.  I also got letter 1 and letter 2.  Thanks for sending them.

Last Friday was a Hindu holiday called Holi.  Part of the celebration involves throwing handfuls of BRIGHT (pink, purple, green, red, blue, etc.) powder on everybody around you.  If we had gone out in public in certain crowded places, we would have had colors thrown on us.  Also, people throw water balloons filled with colored water.  Some people actually get hurt doing this though mostly it is good “fun.”  Since I had Friday off, we went to a hill station about two and a half hours drive from our home.  I will describe our interesting and very Indian week‑end in an upcoming e‑mail to the whole family.  It irritates the kids that they do not have regular access to e‑mail yet.  It would not help to come to my office in the evening, since the lines are hopelessly jammed (not the office’s lines but e‑mail access in general!)  I am working to get us connected but like so many things here IT TAKES TIME!!!

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Articles I’m Reading

This page is for links to articles I have read and particularly liked.  Though the content is important, I’m really going to focus on items I thought were particularly well-written or that discuss the writer’s (and the artist’s in general) craft.  I’m learning that a literary life balances input and output, reading and writing, absorbing and releasing.  Probably more people read than write.  One of my goals for The Life Literary is to offer a plethora of suggestions for ways, small and big, easy and complex, to incorporate writing and other literary output into a person’s daily life.  Along with that, however, I’m going to give suggestions for reading (like these articles) that may be especially useful input because they’re written well.  Not that everything you read has to be some perfect literary creation.  But it’s good to read at least some things that are wonderfully, artfully imagined and constructed.

The Articles

“Paradox of Modern Life: So Many Choices, So Little Joy”, Jim Sollisch in “The Christian Science Monitor,”
“What I Learned at School”
Marie Myuung-ok lee (a writer’s reminiscence about how a teacher took extra effort to encourage a budding writer.)
“The Rise of Twitter Poetry” Randy Kennedy (About using Twitter for poetry and literature.)
Teaching to the Text Message
Andy Selsberg (A brief NYT Op Ed about writing concisely.)
History is on Japan’s Side” PETER FRETWELL and TAYLOR BALDWIN KILAND (I like this article because it talks about the process of working through trauma as a strengthening activity.)
Marvel and Persistence” Verlyn Klinkenberg (A writer whose style – this article is a fine example – I greatly admire.  I also envy anyone who can work full-time on a farm and also be a writer, one goal-scenario of mine.)
My Love Affair With America” Jeffrey Goldberg (I said I wouldn’t bring politics into The Life Literary and I won’t.  I only include this because of the clever word plays or rather his humorous use of particular images juxtaposed with particular words to make his point.  I’m not commenting on whether I like or agree with it.  I do think this piece is really clever.)Google Schools Its Algorithm, Steve Lohr (Discusses how Google recently changed its algorithm (how it conducts searches) to make the results more accurate or useful.)
Boston College Conservatory of Music Welcome Address, Karl Paulnack (A moving description of the vital role of music and art in the world.  An important article.)
“Deadlines Can Give Life to Creative Writing,” by Robert McCrum.  Robert McCrum On Books” is a blog written by a well-known British writer, editor.  Always well-written with interesting bits of literary what-not.
“Why We Write About Grief,” by Joyce Carol Oates and Meghan O’Rourke
“I Feel it Coming Together”, by Judith Warner (Judith Warner’s tone and honesty are what sell me. Her prose is good; her heart, winsome.)
“What the Last Meal Taught Him,” by Kim Severson (Have Kleenex ready.)
“The Old Man and the Sea by Earnest Hemingway,” From The Writer’s Almanac, May 4, 2010. ( a poignant review of a moving, powerful story.)

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A Yolk

My Wife: (preparing to eat a hard-boiled egg)

Me: “You are appealing.”

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Reading: A Literary No-Brainer?

The Importance of Reading…

Books and reading were hugely important to me and still are.  The written word has always been such a key, central part of my life.  I owe so much of how I grew up, what I know and how I think, to reading.  Also, for better or worse, books provided an escape for me when I didn’t want to deal with the real-life situation at hand.  They opened new worlds, taught me words and ideas and cultures, and provided a potent context for the world as I saw and experienced it.  Reading taught me to love words and the world.

…and Not-Reading

Recently, I’ve learned the value of not reading, or at least of balancing reading with observing and listening, and with writing.  Though reading is such valuable literary input, without some sort of output a person could get, well, literarily constipated.   I’ll be writing about deliberate not-reading in The Life Literary.

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Con-TENT with CON-tent

I was chatting with my Policy Adviser and Technical Facilitator for The Life Literary (aka my oldest son).  We were chatting via email about this and that, family stuff as well as blog issues.  We discussed how I might eventually increase The Life Literary‘s readership.  He advised:

I would say that more than anything you begin to define the niche in which you want to operate.  Try to define what the ultimate goal of this blog is. What is your elevator pitch? Who is your audience? What makes you different from other people in this field?   But… at the moment it might be best for you just to focus on content ….

I commented on the first part of what he had written, then added:

I’m very content to keep adding content.

Wow!  What a fantastic sentence and I didn’t even intend it.  Complete serendipity!  ConTENT to add CONtent.  This word is a noun when the first syllable is accented and an adjective when the second.  The first minutes after I recognized this were such fun.  I almost laughed out loud.  It was like finding a hundred dollar bill on the sidewalk.  Sometimes word plays just happen in the context of everyday communicating, and I love it when they do.

(I’m adding this post post.  My Tech Facilitor helped me solve another problem I was having.  Here’s what I wrote to him:

I absolutely don’t mind a simple solution.  Nice to have a tech facilitator who can cut to the quick, quick.

I know, Iknow, it should have been, “…cut to the quick quickly,” but I liked repeating the same word, quick, but with two different meanings.)

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Books I Like

I regret not keeping a list of all the books I’ve ever read.  I would have started it in 1965 when I was in first grade and had just learned to read.  I’ll never forget the cover of that first book.  It had a picture of two boys in a rowboat.  The book, checked out from the library, felt wonderfully heavy and thick; I felt so mature, so accomplished!  If I had kept that kind of list it would be a tome by now, a precious treasure and invaluable window into some of my early and ongoing literary influences.

Here at The Life Literary, the editorial staff believes that when it comes to living literarily, it’s never too late to start.  Therefore, I’m going to build a list of books I’ve read and am reading at the moment.  As my memory allows, I’ll include books from my past.  So I didn’t start the list when I was six.  Who says I can’t start it 45 years later?

What I’m reading now:  The Human Comedy, William Saroyan (Quirky little book with well-written vignette chapters that form themselves into a very human story.)

The Ultimate Burns Supper Book, Clark McGinn (a funny, well-written, concise guide to everything you’ve ever wanted to know about hosting a Burns Supper.  My companion every January.)
A Child’s Christmas in Wales
– Dylan Thomas
Great Expectations
, Charles Dickens
A History of Scotland
, J.D. Mackie
A Man without a Country, Kurt Vonnegut (A peek into the mind and heart of one of my favorite writers, also from Indianapolis.  I kinda wish I didn’t identify with it so much.  Harsh words for lying leaders.  Written in 2005)
The Thurber Carnival
, James Thurber
The Secret Life of Bees
, Sue Monk Kidd
Dirt and Deity: A Life of Robert Burns
, Ian McIntyre
The Undertaking
, Thomas Lynch (A beautifully written book about death and dying written by a well-known, published poet who is also a mortician.)
Echoes of a Native Land: Two Centuries of a Russian Village, Serge Schmemann (An awarding wining New York Times reporter and the son of a well known Russian Orthodox priest writes about the village where one branch of his family lived.)
Last Night in Twisted River, John Irving (Irving’s latest.  Fun for dyed-in-the-wool Irving fans like me)
The Sound and the Fury, William Faulkner (One of the great books of the 20th century.)
E.B. White: A Biography, Scott Elledge (A well-written fun read about one of my literary heros.)
Walden, Henry David Thoreau (A classic.  A life changer.  An odd dude.)
John Adams, David McCullough (A beautifully told biography of one of the key authors of the great experiment known as the United States.)
1776, David McCullough (A book of history.  A page turner.  A must-read for any student of American history yet also a treat.)
Jailbird, Kurt Vonnegut (Such fun.  Lots of laughs.  We still quote it.)
Breakfast of Champions, Kurt Vonnegut (Dark.  Heavy sailing.)
The Girl With the Pearl Earring, Tracey Chevalier (If I were to try to write a historical novel, this would be my model.)
Rabbit, Run, John Updike (Luscious.  Rich images.  Pointed critique of the  of 50s and 60s middle America.  Part one of four)
Rabbit Redux, John Updike (Continues the saga.  He writes about sex and lies, intimacy and rage with a sure hand but without hitting the reader in the face with the whole schmear.)
Puddinhead Wilson, Mark Twain (A great read.  Classic, biting, funny.)
The Kite Runner, Khaled Hosseini (About betrayal and redemption, set against the tumultuous backdrop of modern Afghanistan.  Dense, creamy prose.)
Liberty, Garrison Keillor (About lust, middle-age, intimacy and forgiveness .  An author for whom “more of the same” is high praise.)
A Christmas Carol, Charles Dickens (I read it and weep every Christmas.)
The Gift of the Magi, (I read it and weep every Christmas.  Note to self: read more O’Henry this year.)
A Child’s Christmas in Wales, Dylan Thomas (I read it – but don’t weep – every Christmas.  One of my favorite wordsmiths of all time.)
Patriots: The Men Who Started the American Revolution, A.J. Langguth (Fun and informative sketches of America’s Founding Fathers.)
From Every End of This Earth, Steven V. Roberts (Oral histories of newly arrived immigrants in the U.S.  A book I wish I’d written.)
Great Expectations, Charles Dickens (A great book.)
Essays of E.B. White, E.B. White (One of my inspirations.)
The Old Man and the Sea, Earnest Hemingway (Of course a classic.  Spare language, a compelling story, a keeper.)
The Coup, John Updike (I was surprised to enjoy it so much.)

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Psalm 121

Michael Wigglesworth

I to the hills lift up mine eyes,
from whence shall come mine aid.
Mine help doth from Jehovah come,
which heaven and earth hath made.

He will not let thy foot be moved,
nor slumber; that thee keeps.
Lo, he that keepeth Israel,
he slumbereth not, nor sleeps.

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From the Bride’s Father’s Notebook – Day 4

From the Bride’s Father’s Notebook – Day 3

Wednesday, December 23

I hung out with my future son-in-law today.  Hung out is really the best way to say it.  We really didn’t “accomplish” anything, but I think we had fun and, even better, were comfortable together.  When I was getting to know my father-in-law, I remember feeling uncomfortable at times, awkward, not always knowing what to talk about or do.  We were from different generations after all, but still we managed.  Soon, our times together were o.k.

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Onus? On Us.

Don’t ask.  I just like the looks of it.  Playing with words is its own reward.

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